Facebook for Parents - Part 1By Elizabeth Fazio, Psy.D Social networking is here to stay. Long gone are the days where the home telephone is the main source of communication to others outside the home. So many people no longer even have a "land line". The good thing about this is that you don't have to wrestle your children to make a phone call. The problem is that social networking is confusing and frustrating for a lot of parents. Many parents already have their own Facebook page and understand it, but for some it is unchartered territory. Not knowing how Facebook works creates panic for many Moms and Dads. Parents who do have their own Facebook page are often asking me if they should "friend' their kids on Facebook or leave it alone? It is interesting because in the world of parenting advice we are often talking about being a parent, not your child's friend. The underlying meaning, of course, is that your kids need you to set rules and boundaries, help them make good choices and understand the reasoning behind those choices...not be their friend. However, in the world of Facebook, I think being your child's "friend" is usually a good idea. I know many kids who are seriously appalled by this idea, but if being on Facebook is contingent upon "friending" (yes, this word can now be used as a verb) you, they may concede. For high school and college kids, this is a harder idea to sell. For older, resistant kids, have an aunt, uncle, or trusted friend become Facebook friends with your child. Kids spend so much of their life on Facebook and parents need to be a part of it. If you don't have a Facebook page, it will be very hard to understand so much of what your kids are doing or saying (assuming they are on Facebook). It will impossible to "friend" them as well. So if you would like to learn more you can sign up for the new course being offered at Stanford University — Facebook for Parents. The creation of BJ Fogg, Director of the Persuasive Technology Lab at Stanford and co-editor of "The Psychology of Facebook". The classes will be hands-on, and the goals are to help parents navigate the site, create their own page, learn about threats and safety and examine ways that Facebook can teach kids life lessons and social skills. Ok, so most of us are not going to travel to Stanford for this information. The great news is that Fogg also has a website, facebookforparents.org, which is filled with the sort of tips he will be sharing in class. To get started, for instance, he walks you through the five simplest steps:
In "Facebook for Parents – Part 2" we'll talk about what to do – or not to do – with what you see on your child's page. If this information has sparked some questions, or if you¹d like to talk to one of us about
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